What is Self Worth?

In a world that often measures value by achievements, appearance, or social status, it’s easy to forget the quiet, unshakable truth - your worth isn’t defined by anyone or anything but you. Self-worth is not something you earn or collect; it’s something you own, and it lives deep within you.

So, what is self-worth, really? At its heart, self-worth is how you feel about yourself. It’s the internal sense that you are inherently valuable, regardless of what you’ve accomplished, what others think of you, or what’s happening in your life. It’s not about perfection or performance. It’s about acceptance, compassion, and recognising your worth simply because you exist.

Self-Worth vs. External Validation

Many of us are taught, often unconsciously, to view our value in external things. You look to job titles, relationships, likes on social media, grades, compliments, the list goes on. But relying on these fleeting sources can feel like chasing the wind. When the praise stops or you stumble (as we all do), your sense of self can crumble.

But self-worth isn't based on how productive you were this week, how you look in a mirror, or whether someone approves of your choices. True self-worth comes from within. It’s the quiet but steady voice that says, “I have value, just as I am.”

The Power of Recognising Your Worth

Embracing your self-worth can be transformational. When you know your value:

• You set healthier boundaries.

• You’re less likely to tolerate disrespect or toxic relationships.

• You become more resilient in the face of setbacks.

• You make choices aligned with your authentic self, not just to please others.

It’s empowering because it frees you. When your worth isn’t tied to the external world, you no longer need to prove yourself constantly. You begin to show up more fully, more courageously, and more compassionately. You know exactly what you bring to the table and it doesn't change, even when things around you might.

Building Self-Worth

Like any meaningful relationship, the one you have with yourself takes time and care. Here are a few ways to nurture your sense of self-worth:

• Speak kindly to yourself. Notice your inner dialogue, would you say those words to a friend?

• Celebrate your uniqueness. You don’t need to be anyone else. Who you are is enough.

• Let go of comparison. You’re not behind; you’re on your own path.

• Spend time with people who uplift you. Your environment matters so surround yourself with those who make you feel good and vice versa.

• Acknowledge your progress. Every step forward, no matter how small, is worthy of recognition.

You Are Enough

If there’s one message to carry with you, let it be this: your worth is not up for debate. It’s not a prize to be earned or a status to be granted. It’s an inherent truth. You are enough, not because of what you do, but because of who you are.

Embrace that truth. Nurture it. And whenever the world tries to make you forget it, come back to yourself. Because you are your most powerful source of worth.

If you’d like support finding your sense of self worth, get in touch.