5 Easy Self-Love Ideas to Help Boost Your Confidence

February is often considered to be the month of love but sharing some of that energy with yourself when it’s cold and drizzly outside is something of a challenge. Here I’m sharing five easy self love ideas, because the only relationship that lasts a lifetime is the one you have with yourself.

Date Yourself

Make yourself a fancy dinner and eat it in front of your favourite TV program or film. Go to the cinema and see that film you’ve been dying to see (Wuthering Heights I’m looking at you). Take yourself for a long, if slightly soggy, walk and explore somewhere new. Visit a new cafe or restaurant and get lost in a good book or your favourite podcast. Basically, think of anything you’d typically do on a date that makes you happy, whether big or small, and do it for and with yourself with no guilt.

Write a Love List

When I work with couples one of the first things I ask is what they like and love about each other. But it’s something most of us are typically very bad at doing for and about ourselves. We’re normally so focused on the things we want to change that we stop giving ourselves compliments. Writing a love list is a great way to remind yourself of the things you’re great at, your achievements, and everything you like about yourself. Keep it on hand for next time you’re being your own worst critic.

Indulge Yourself

Make your favourite drink and spend some time savouring it. Take a long bubble bath or everything shower with candles and relaxing music. Use that amazing-smelling body cream you’ve been saving for a special occasion. Wear the outfit that makes you feel confident. Romanticise your everyday just because. Why shouldn’t a Tuesday be special? You deserve it.

Lean on Your Support Network

Having a down day? Utilise your support network of beautiful souls who love and care about you. “But they’ve also got things going on” I hear you cry. Yep, of course they have. We all do. But that doesn’t mean they don’t want to be there when you need them, in much the same way you’re there when they need you. Use them, cherish them. I bet they’d rather be there when you need them, even if it’s inconvenient, than come to your funeral.

Say No

This one can be a little trickier - respecting yourself and saying no when you mean it. By learning what you do and don’t enjoy, you’re better able to understand the things you do and don’t want to spend your time doing. Yes, there’ll be times you have to do things you don’t really want to do (grocery shopping perhaps). But if it’s something that’s truly optional and saying no won’t have a detrimental impact on your life… say no. You’re allowed to opt out of things that aren’t full-body yeses.

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